Toilet training tips for parents
Children learn by imitation or copying, so it is a good idea from a young age to let your child to watch or see you siting on the toilet. You can even get your child to sit on the potty when you’re on the toilet before starting the toilet training.
Be prepared with a potty or toilet seat insert, a foot support/stepladder. It is important your child feels safe on the toilet and doesn’t fall off. You will need plenty of clean underpants. You can even let your toddler choose the underpants. There are many themed or fun underpants designs to choose from. Your child can even help choose the potty, toilet seat insert and steps.
Borrow books from the library or purchase children’s picture books about toilet training to help your child’s learning. Try to get your child excited about toilet training, because removing the nappy might not make much sense to them; after all, they have been wearing one all their lives.
Timing the trips to the toilet is also key for successful toilet training. The best times to sit your child on the potty or toilet are:
- when they get up in the morning
- 20 – 30 minutes after a meal or snack
- after their afternoon nap
- only get them sit on the potty of toilet for 2-3 minutes initially
If your child happens to have a regular time when they open their bowels (do a poo), then put them on the potty or toilet at that time.
It is important to make sure your child’s bowel motions (poos) stay soft and regular, because hard poo can make toilet training regress and more difficult. If that’s the case, encourage foods that help keep the bowel motions regular, such as pears and kiwi fruit.
If there is any sign of constipation make sure you see your GP or pharmacist as your toddler may require a laxative.
It is important to stay relaxed and positive. Use positive words and body language and avoid saying things like “you stink” or “pooey”.
Praise behaviour you want and ignore behaviour you do not want. All clean-ups need to be no fuss, no frills and preferably in the toilet or bathroom.
Small rewards such as sticker charts, cuddles or high fives may help your child stay on track. It’s important to reward not only when they wee or poo, but even when they sit on the toilet when asked even if they don’t wee or poo.
Also be aware that it’s not uncommon for toilet training to sometimes go backwards. This might happen, for example, when there is a new sibling in the house, when your child may be sick, or the timing might not be quite right for them.
And remember, it is OK to take a break from toilet training if things get too stressful or hard for you or your child.
How to toilet train - TEP
- Timing: Make sure the time is right for you and your child
- Equipment: Step ladder with toilet insert or potty, underpants, mop & bucket. Story books or u-tube clips on toilet training.
- Plan: Initially you can prompt toilet training by asking your child to sit on the toilet (“ít’s time to sit on the toilet now please’’) every 1 ½ hr to 2hrs for 2-3 mins. It is a good idea to get your toddler to sit on toilet first thing in the morning, 20-30mins after a meal and prior to their bath.
Once your child is in the routine then you can change your language “What is it time for now?’’
As your child is becoming reliably dry and more independent you can then ask your child “Do you need to go to the toilet?” As they begin to toilet independently, they will tell you when they are going to the toilet or just take themselves. Young children will need help wiping their bottoms.
Rewards high five, cuddles, stickers if your child does as you ask and if they do wee or poo in the toilet.
Stay positive. No fuss, no frills clean ups in the bathroom or toilet.
Ask for help. If you have another child it may be a good idea to get someone else to look after them so you can concentrate on your toddler. Maybe have pre prepared meals in the freezer or easily prepared meals while helping your toddler toilet train.
It’s not uncommon for toilet training to sometimes regress; when a new sibling arrives, or your child may be sick, or the timing might not be quite right.
Remember, it is OK to take a break from toilet training if things get too stressful for you or your child. Remembering every toddler is different.
Most children are daytime toilet trained of bladder (weeing) by the age of four. If a child regularly wets during the day after this age professional advice is necessary.
Call the National Continence Helpline on 1800 33 00 66, Monday to Friday 8am to 8pm or speak to your Maternal Child Health Nurse.