Dear Lizzard, Dear Yazzie,
OK, I am a 49 yo male struggling with urge incontinence and also very active. I run, climb, windsurf, boot camp, ... every day. As such, I thought I might share this for encouragement :-)
Those Kegel exercises work indeed but it takes a while, please be patient! Bladder calming techniques are great but I believe that is specific for urge.
If I want to enjoy a coffee, tea or fizzy drink I need to be near the toilet otherwise it really is a no go for me.
In order to do sport (every day), I go to the toilet twice to make sure I am on empty to start :-) When I go surfing or less than 30 min run, no problem. When I go for longer, I simply have a toilet stop every 30-40 minutes for peace of mind. When I go for longer, somewhere I don't know where the toilets are, I use a light Tena or Molicare pull up (invisible under training shorts) for peace of mind and try to find a toilet every 30 minutes of exercise or so. If I didn't manage to find a toilet in time, it is not the end of the world but I do go home as these pull ups get bulky.
Just the fact that I know I can get away with 1 accident gives me the confidence to get out there, be active and enjoy myself a lot.
I do the same when I travel on the plane ( I fly a lot) and as Mint says, I never had any issues at all with security checks, even with body scanners overseas. I am sure they must see this all the time.
Hope this is helpful,