Toilet skills (toilet training)

Learning to use the toilet is an important skill for your child. Every child is different, so choosing the right time and approach helps make it easier for everyone.

When to start toilet training

Most children may begin toilet training between the ages of 2 and 3. Look for signs your child may be ready, such as:

• staying dry for two hours or after their afternoon nap
• wanting to be being clean and independent
• telling you when they’ve done a wee or poo
• following simple instructions
• pulling pants up and down
• sitting still on the toilet for a few minutes.

Your child doesn’t need to show all signs – being ready looks different for each child.

Steps to toilet train your child

Step 1 – Get started

Choose a calm time. Let your child observe routines, use a potty or toilet insert, pick their underwear, and engage with fun learning tools eg toileting books from the library.

Step 2 – Make a routine

Encourage toilet time every 2 hours (morning, after meals, before bath, before bed). Praise effort, use gentle reminders and stay calm during accidents.

Step 3 – Stay flexible

You may need to pause during big changes such as illness, moving house or a new baby. As confidence grows, prompt your child and support hygiene skills.

Toilet skills for children with additional needs

Toilet learning supports independence and inclusion. Children with developmental delays or a disability may need extra time and tailored strategies. With patience, consistency and the right support, many can develop good toilet skills.

Partner with health professionals such as a nurse continence specialist, pelvic health physiotherapist, occupational therapist, GP (doctor) or psychologist for support. Benefits of toilet learning include:

• for children – better hygiene, confidence and independence
• for families – reduced care needs and greater participation.

Stay positive, collaborate with educators and work toward realistic goals.

Video: Teaching children with disability toilet skills

Debbie Atkins, an occupational therapist and toilet training consultant, talks about toilet training children with incontinence and disability.

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